Human beings have several ‘needs’ beyond food, shelter and clothing. Tony Robbins is an internationally known “Life Coach” who has highlighted a group of human needs, among which are “certainty” and “uncertainty”.   Certainty Feels Good Most of us will readily accept certainty. It feels good to know, for example, that when I get into my vehicle for a two hour journey to the next city, I will arrive at my son’s home safely and harmlessly. Yes, minor or major accidents can happen, but careful planning and vigilant attention on the road will minimize those risks. I have made that trip at least twenty times each year, and I can be certain to get there next week as well. Similarly, when I mix flour into a dough, put it into a loaf-sized pan …

This is a Selfie of Ralph and me on our honeymoon in New Zealand climbing a volcano. We look happy, I am 17 weeks pregnant. A week into the trip a month earlier on the Andaman Islands he had told me he basically hates my guts and looks (or that is what I heard). After initial devastation I was ready to hear it and told him spill it all. I actually took notes. It was an ugly time. I wanted to fly home every day, leave him there and get a divorce.   We realized quickly that we needed to get constructive somehow, and had to come up with a solution as how to talk to each other without getting into a fight. Every day after breakfast, one person got to talk, …